2025年9月27日 星期六

Oneida Community

 

一級公社(Oneida Community)是一個位於紐約州的宗教性烏托邦社群,由約翰·亨弗里·諾伊斯(John Humphrey Noyes)於1848年創立。 該社群實行「複雜婚姻」和「男性節制」等激進的社會實踐,並在19世紀末成功發展出一個具有廣泛影響力的生產型社群,後來轉變為一家成功的企業。 

核心特點與實踐

複雜婚姻(Complex Marriage): 社群成員相信並實踐一種「自由愛」的模式,即社群中的所有男性都是所有女性的丈夫,所有女性也都是所有男性的妻子。 

男性節制(Male Continence): 在性行為中,男性會進行一種特殊的練習,通過控制射精來進行性行為,以達到「完美」的狀態。 

完美主義(Perfectionism): 社群的宗教信仰基於「完美主義」,相信耶穌已在公元70年歸來,因此他們能夠在這個世界建立並實現千禧年的國度。 

社會控制與教育: 社群也發展了諸如「批評會議」(Criticism Sessions)等方法,用來監督和約束成員行為,並進行社會控制和兒童教養。 

社群的轉變與遺產

成功轉型為企業: 在經歷了三十多年的實驗後,一級公社的成員決定終止複雜婚姻和男性節制等實踐,於1880年轉變為一家名為「一級」的生產型企業。 

產品發明: 儘管其宗教實踐已終止,但社群因其生產能力而聞名,並發明了多種產品,例如大家熟知的捕鼠器。 

歷史保護: 一級公社的故居(Oneida Community Mansion House)現在是一個國家級歷史地標,由一個非營利組織管理,作為博物館和活動場所,繼續其歷史教育和文化傳承的任務。 

2025年9月25日 星期四

10 of the most famous animals in psychology

 

Psychologists have long studied chimps and other animals with two principal, related aims: to find out the capabilities of the animal mind, and to discover what makes us truly unique, if anything. This is a challenging field. As any pet owner knows, it's tempting to project a human interpretation onto animal behaviour. Researchers, especially when they've spent many years studying the same animal, can fall victim to this very bias (you'll see a theme of this field is the powerful, close bonds frequently formed between psychologist and animal). At the same time, though, there is also a temptation to overestimate our human uniqueness. Which emotions and capabilities are exclusively human? Tool use, perspective taking and deceit were once contenders, but no more, and the list is getting shorter all the time.


This Digest feature post is a celebration of the contribution that animals have made to psychology, including eight that we've come to know on first-name terms:


Hans the Horse

螃蟹效應

 

Crab mentality, crab effect, crab 


En chino - 底層互害


Antonia Rosca-Peña[2] (born December 17, 1946), known by her pen name Ninotchka Rosca,[Note 1][3] is a Filipina feminist, author, journalist, owl expert, and human rights activist in the Philippines[4][5][6][7] best known for her 1988 novel State of War and for her activism, especially during the Martial Law dictatorship of former Philippine President Ferdinand Marcos.[8][9] Rosca has been described as "one of the major players in the saga of Filipina American writers."

Zero-sum bias, where individuals perceive that they can only gain at the expense of others, may contribute to crab mentality.

Der Krabbenkorb wird oft als Metapher verwendet, die das Verhalten „wenn ich es nicht haben kann, kannst du es auch nicht haben“ widerspiegelt. Den Krabben wird fälschlicherweise nachgesagt, dass sie einfach aus einem Krabbenkorb entkommen könnten. Wenn eine Krabbe allerdings versuchte, aus dem Korb zu steigen, würde sie von anderen Krabben wieder zurückgezogen.


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Why is "crab mentality" deeply ingrained in Philippine society, most especially in the corporate world? Why do some Filipinos would pull you down if they feel that you are rising steadily above them?

Crab mentality isn’t something exclusive to Filipinos. It exists everywhere. I’ve worked with non-Filipinos and sometimes their crab mentality is worse. The notion of crab mentality became associated with Filipinos during the colonial period. Propaganda used to justify the oppression of native Filipinos, because we were considered lazy, envious and savage.


And during the Spanish colonial period and during the Japanese and American occupation, a lot of Filipinos did what they had to do what they can to survive. For some people that meant lying, cheating and stealing from fellow Filipinos. These crimes were then used as examples for the propaganda.


I’m not saying that this trait in Filipinos doesn’t exist. I’m just saying it’s unfair to expect the worst of ourselves. We need to cut ourselves some slack and just accept that we are all human. We’re all flawed. Being Filipino doesn’t make us better or worse than everybody else.


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Originally Answered: Why are Filipino traits crab mentality?

Not only Filipinos are the ones who supposedly have that frequent


tendency. There are 196 countries in the world. In just about all of those where there ‘s strong communal mentality, people are supposed to stay within the community’s parameters and not leave it by trying to be better. The community will protect you if you are down, but pull you down if you are up. So that you stay on the same level… (more)

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Why is "crab mentality" deeply ingrained in Philippine society, most especially in the corporate world? Why do some Filipinos would pull you down if they feel that you are rising steadily above them?

For my experience working, there is no such thing as crab mentality when I worked for a call center job in Manila. However, when I started working in the educational field in Laguna, oddly there are higher crab mentality cases among the colleagues I’ve worked before.


In the call center, we were trained to be friendly and be respectful with our wave mates (batch) even though we came from different backgrounds, gender (some are in the LGBT community), age (there are young working students while some are already parents and adults) etc. Out of the 30 people, I started with 1 bestfriend and all gre… (more)

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Why is "crab mentality" deeply ingrained in Philippine society, most especially in the corporate world? Why do some Filipinos would pull you down if they feel that you are rising steadily above them?

Well, it is because of jealousy. It is prevalent even in high society. Such as a judge bypassed from being appointed as chief justice, threw a lot of accusations at the chief justice. Saying she should be chief justice as she is more senior. They hate it especially if a fellow Filipino gets recognition, raise, awards, etc., instead of them.

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Why is "crab mentality" deeply ingrained in Philippine society, most especially in the corporate world? Why do some Filipinos would pull you down if they feel that you are rising steadily above them?

Absolutely not a culture! Crab mentality is almost the opposite of fanaticism. There are more cults and fanatics in the Philippines. Most people go with the crowd all the time! There is a strong innate fear of being ostracized. It’s less progressive culturally because in many countries, they fix the root of problems and individuality matters.


Definitely not crab mentality! More of ANT mentality, which is something most people do for survival.


Not dismissing the absence of crab mentality. Just dismissing its prevalence!


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How do you deal with 'crab' mentality?

Don’t tell people when you are planning to do something for yourself. Use your actions not your words. Telling them prompts them to convince you to fail like them. Head down, nose to the grindstone. By the time they find out about your success the train will be moving too fast to stop.

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It depends. If your friends are the crabs in this situation the solution is simple. Run.


It’s going to sound scary. You’re going to wonder if you’ll ever make new friends. The world might feel like it’s ending. Run anyway. You can’t thrive surrounded by people that are trying to hold each other down. Trust me. I’ve tried.


Also read this article Tell Me Who You Spend Time With, And I Will Tell You Who You Are it outlines why you should run in more detail.


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I am also perplexed at this. Honestly I don't know why. But I guess they it is because of envy. They don't want to see their neighbor, friends, or family get ahead in life, or at work. But this should not be the case.

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Envy. Pulling down someone to your level somehow makes you feel good.


Ignorance. There is less of this attitude among those who are enlightened and educated.


Powerlessness. People who have no real means to improve their lot find something else to equalise their environment or make their presence known.


Mediocrity. Those who succeed through excellence do not have time for destructive pursuits which are indicative of a crab mentality.

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What is crab mentality?

“Crab Mentality” is an insidious type of jealousy. It is somewhat similar to “busting someones balloon” or “raining on their parade.” Only worse.


The phrase comes from putting crabs in a bucket. Any crab that takes the initiative to climb out to save its life will be pulled back in by another crab. Applying this to people it means “I’d rather see both of us dead then just me.” or “if I can’t have it then you cant have it.“ Those with crab-mentality intend to carrying through with their promise.


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Yeah i agree with you... If you rise above the ranks due to your hard work and dedication somebody is bound to sourgrape and stab you behind your back... We cannot be genuinely happy for the success of another... It is called pride... The rust that corrodes relationships... We cannot adhere to the basic commandment-thou shall not covet... And the Lord provided the formula to overcome this... Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you...

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Kopf in den Sand stecken

The ostrich effect, also known as the ostrich problem,[1] was originally coined by Dan Galai and Orly Sade.[2] The name comes from the common (but false) legend that ostriches bury their heads in the sand to avoid danger. This effect is a cognitive bias where people tend to “bury their head in the sand” and avoid potentially negative but useful information, such as feedback on progress, to avoid psychological discomfort.

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Probably because it is hard to get to the top, too many competition, too many talented people, that is why at times, Filipino excel working outside Philippines.

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La mentalidad de cangrejo, a veces conocida como cangrejos en la cubeta (también barril, canasta u olla) o cangrejismo, es una forma de pensar mejor descrita por la frase, "si no puedo tenerlo, tú tampoco".[1]​ La metáfora se refiere a una cubeta con cangrejos donde individualmente estos animales pueden escapar con facilidad de la cubeta, pero en su lugar, se describe como los cangrejos se sabotean agarrándose entre ellos en una competencia inútil para que ninguno pueda escapar, asegurando la destrucción del colectivo.[2

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真正的愛

 

真正的喜欢,当然是有所更正,有所接受,有所取舍的。

童年時期的缺乏需要一生去彌補

 

童年時期的心理創傷或需求未滿足,確實可能對人一生造成深遠影響,甚至需要漫長的時間來療癒,這句話準確反映了童年經歷對成人生活的塑造,特別是童年逆境經驗(ACEs)會增加日後心理疾病和生理疾病的患病風險。 然而,透過心理治療、大腦的可塑性與自我成長,也有可能透過專業協助與個人努力來處理並療癒童年創傷,而不是必然需要用一生去填補。 by ChatGPT

死罪可免,活罪難逃

 



「死罪可免,活罪難逃」這句成語出自<<中國古代小說>>中的<<紅樓夢>>,在《紅樓夢》的第八十一回中出現,意指雖然免除了該受的死罪,但仍難逃其他法律上的懲罰。
  • 出處:
    • <<紅樓夢>>
  • 句意:
    • 死罪可免,活罪難逃:指雖然免於一死的處罰,但仍然要接受其他刑罰的懲罰,逃不過法律上的制裁。
  • 使用場景:
    • 在小說中,當某人被捕後,雖有可能逃脫死刑的判罰,但仍然難以避免其他法律上的懲罰,因此可以用來形容這種情況。

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自己超過自己

 

其實, 跟別人比的進步是跟人比的進步.

真正的進步是跟自己比才是進步~

想超過別人, 那是... 幻想, 因為你不是別人~~


放下助人情緒, 尊重他人命運

 

放下助人情節,尊重他人命運

朋友說:感覺你在南美洲旅行特別有活力,嗆讀者也非常夠力。

我說:對啊!適時表達自己情緒,並樹立邊界,聽得懂的人會留下,聽不懂的人會自動離去,來跟我吵架的,一律封鎖。

這些年做為作者、半公眾人物,不時會有路人以各種名義情緒勒索,剛開始我還會陷入兩難,是對方表達不清楚呢?還是對方無心之過,只是用詞不當。剛開始我都會輕輕略過,不當一回事,但你不當一回事,別人就會欺近三尺。

最後,我就認清:

我根本不認識你,還要為你斷章取義的情緒負責,在我眼皮下負擔難聽的的批評,心想,你誰啊!

旅行分享的目的是為了給下一個出發的人勇氣,告訴別人,我是怎麼辦到的,但並沒有想要教學,按照我這樣做就沒問題。更不是提供免費的服務,教別人怎麼旅行才是正確。

如果你很嚮往這樣的獨自旅行,你會認真看每一篇文章內容,再來詢問我尚未提到的細節,我會私下補充給你。

有些人會說自己刀子嘴豆腐心,但我不需要刀子嘴的讀者,這樣我也不需要花額外同理心。

今天看到某個影片分享:

成長的目的不是為了讓我們跟每一個人相處,而是選擇跟什麼樣的人相處,善良是需要的,但是需要給對的人,付出也是給合適的人。

不需要為了白眼狼,掏心掏肺!

我認為,樹立人我邊界很重要,不要隨意揮霍善良,冷漠是一種手段,避免與關鍵耗損人格相處,才是中年人生路途第一要件。

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仰不愧天, 俯不愧人,內不愧心. 問心無愧的好處

 「仰不愧天,俯不愧人,內不愧心」此語出自**《孟子·盡心上》**,原句是「仰不愧於天,俯不怍於人」,意指君子坦蕩無私,即使仰望蒼天或低頭審視自己,都不會感到慚愧,即行為光明磊落,問心無愧。 

出處與原文

出處:: 戰國時期孟子的《孟子·盡心上》。 

原文:: 孟子曰:「君子有三樂,而王天下不與存焉。父母俱存,兄弟無故,一樂也;仰不愧於天,俯不怍於人,二樂也;得天下英才而教育之,三樂也。」 

注釋:: 「怍」(音同「作」),是慚愧的意思。 

釋義與意涵

「仰不愧於天,俯不怍於人」強調的是一種內在的人格修養和道德自覺性,要求人做人做事光明正大。 

其中,「仰不愧於天」表示不違背天理良心,不見不得人的事情;「俯不怍於人」表示不欺騙他人,不做違背道義的事情。 

「內不愧心」則是對這句話的延伸和補充,意為內心不感到愧疚和不安。 

綜合起來,這句話描繪了一種光明磊落、問心無愧的君子風範,將內在的道德修養置於比世俗權勢更高的位置。 


Life is a battle

  Several figures have said that "life is a battle," including Henry James ("Life is, in fact, a battle") and Charlotte ...