"Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity." -Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.2022年6月2日
Sincere ignorance
Conscientious stupidity
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好話說盡不如一棒下去
其實人沒有自知(self-awareness), 或是不想面對自知. 好話說盡不如一棒下去.
裝睡的人是不會醒的~
But Does Money Fix Low Self-Worth?
❌ No, because self-worth is internal. Money can boost confidence temporarily, but if it’s the only source of value, the fear of losing it—or seeing others have more—can deepen insecurity.
They are closely related but not exactly the same.
🔹 Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem
✅ Self-Worth = Your fundamental belief that you have value as a person, regardless of achievements, failures, or external factors.
✅ Self-Esteem = How you feel about yourself based on your abilities, successes, or how others see you.
🔸 Key Differences
| Aspect | Self-Worth (Deeper) | Self-Esteem (Surface-Level) |
|---|---|---|
| Definition | Inherent value as a human | Confidence in skills, looks, or social status |
| Dependent on? | Nothing—it's internal | External achievements, validation, or comparison |
| Stable? | More constant, even in failure | Can rise or fall based on life events |
| Example | "I am valuable even if I fail." | "I feel good because I succeeded." |
🔹 How They Interact
- You can have high self-esteem but low self-worth. Example: A successful person who secretly feels unworthy unless they keep winning.
- You can have high self-worth but struggle with self-esteem. Example: Someone who values themselves but feels insecure about their appearance or skills.
🔹 Which Matters More?
👉 Self-worth is deeper and more important. If you have strong self-worth, your self-esteem will be more resilient.
Would you say you struggle more with self-worth or self-esteem? Or are you just curious about the difference?
When victims become perpetrators, it's often because of a cycle of trauma that gets passed down, whether through learned behavior, emotional pain, or a desire for control. Here are some key reasons why this happens:
1. Coping Mechanism (Transference of Pain)
Victims of harm often don’t know how to process their pain. Sometimes, they channel that hurt into hurting others because it gives them a sense of control over their own suffering. They might have been taught (either directly or indirectly) that pain is something you inflict on others to feel stronger, more powerful, or more validated.
2. Learned Behavior
If someone grows up in an environment where abuse, neglect, or mistreatment was common, they may internalize the idea that this is how relationships work. The cycle of abuse gets passed on if a victim doesn’t heal or break free from the patterns they were taught.
3. Power and Control
Victims can feel helpless and powerless in their own experience of harm, and becoming a perpetrator gives them a way to assert dominance and control. They may feel empowered by inflicting the same harm on others because it momentarily relieves their own sense of vulnerability.
4. Unresolved Trauma and Rage
Some victims, especially those who experienced long-term trauma, may have unprocessed rage or deep feelings of injustice. This rage can turn inward (self-destructive behavior) or outward (hurting others) as a way to cope with the overwhelming feelings.
5. A Desire for Revenge or Justice
In certain situations, individuals become perpetrators out of a desire for revenge or to “right” a perceived wrong. They might feel that by inflicting harm on others, they are somehow evening the scales, especially if they feel ignored or wronged by society.
6. Identity Shifts
Sometimes, people who’ve been victims internalize the role of the victim so deeply that they identify with powerlessness. Becoming a perpetrator can be an unconscious way of shifting away from being vulnerable and adopting a different identity, even if it’s harmful to others.
物極必反(?) 在地獄的人只想把別人拉下來~
Breaking the Cycle
The good news is that many people break the cycle by seeking therapy, engaging in self-reflection, or finding healthier ways to deal with their pain. Healing often involves learning to process pain healthily rather than passing it on to others.
Do you think this cycle of victimhood and perpetration is something you’ve observed or experienced personally, or are you exploring it in a more general sense?
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"好好" 躺平 才是王道~
躺平本身並不是一件壞事, 除非你躺到別人的身上...
那個人要讓你躺也可以.... 但那個人也必須一直躺著....
躺平可能有的問題是... 有天災或人禍時.. 你要跑會比沒有躺平的人慢~ 也就是... 生存機會會降低.
所以躺平本身不是一件壞事, 只是如果躺平又沒有危機意識, 那... 不小心蚊子來了, 連被吃掉了都還不知道. 更不要說是老虎了~
所以... 躺平是OK~ 也是要"好好"地躺平~ 才不會對"自己"和別人造成困擾~~
怎麼"好好"地躺平, 才是可以好好躺平的重點~
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