2025年8月12日 星期二

Why people want to control

 

Why do some people want to control other people?
Fear of Uncertainty: People often fear the unknown. By attempting to control others, they may believe they can reduce uncertainty in their environment and make outcomes more predictable. Projection of Values: Some individuals believe or think that their values or beliefs are superior and feel compelled to impose them on others. 

先禮後兵(Treat or trick) , 先兵後禮(Trick or treat)

 

Workplace Applications of “Trick or Treat!” Psychology and the Scary Encyclopedia Salesman

In fact, the kids are employing a common sales technique that can be applied with great effectiveness. For example, consider an encyclopedia salesmen who says to skeptical, resistant parents, “Well, you can let your child fall behind his classmates and risk his entire future, or you could provide him with the Encyclopedia Gigantica.”

This is a close analogue of the “trick or treat!” reversal: feared punishment first, desired behavior (and implied reward of punishment avoidance) second. Here, the salesmen is operating as though a “stick-and-carrot” presentation will be more effective than a “carrot-and-stick” sequence.

Assuming that, in this instance, the attention span of the parents is longer than that of a trick-or-treating kid, the recency effect is unlikely to explain the effectiveness of the sequencing. Instead, the salesman’s technique seems to rely more on the psychology of horror and disaster movies: Frighten your audience first, to get and rivet their attention, before providing them with relief, e.g., of escape or overcoming the threat.

This “fear-relief” sequence of presentation may be justifiable in evolutionary terms, to the extent that in prehistoric jungles, among our ancestors who survived to breed us, fear, danger and the prospect of pain almost certainly trumped desire and the prospect of pleasure in situations that presented both, e.g., stumbling into a lover’s hideaway that turned out to be the cave of a gigantic saber-tooth tiger.

In its clearest technical formulation, the principle is this: “Utilize negative reinforcement to motivate compliance.” Contrary to the common misconception, this does not mean “utilize punishment”; rather, it means “remove (the threat of) punishment”, as a means of reinforcing desired behavior, e.g., giving a treat.

This is perhaps the fundamental principle, technique and motivation underlying the “innocent” “trick or treat!” reverse presentation favored by kids—which has its counterparts and place in business and workplace behavioral management, in addition to its role in sales.

For example, the floor manager of a struggling start-up, under the gun because of unmet deadlines, lagging production lines and unfilled customer orders, has to motivate his crew with a “pepper” talk (the opposite of a “pep” talk, in turning up the heat and pressure on them). So, given the choice between saying, “Pick up the pace, or pack up your stuff!”—which is scary enough, or saying, “Pack up your stuff, or pick up the pace!” (which is even more of a scary shock), a manager operating like a treat-or-tricking kid will choose the latter and the negative reinforcement approach that basically amounts to “relief as pleasure”.

The “treat or trick”, “carrot-and-stick”, “good news-bad news” approach can also work, but on different assumptions: Unlike “trick or treat”, which presents information and options as “problem, solution” or “problem, prevention” sequence, “Pick up the pace, or pack up your stuff”, structures the presentation as “solution, problem” or “prevention, problem”. What are the underlying assumptions that legitimize it, given that the rationale is not the phenomenon of negative reinforcement?

1. The audience (crew) mindset is seen to be more of a natural “cause-effect” (not “effect-cause”) than negative reinforcement “fear-relief” orientation and sensitivity.

2. It is assumed that stressing the fear factor by stating it first would probably backfire as a primacy or hot-button effect and induce panic, resentment and/or paralysis.

Because the themes of Halloween are always heavily saturated with the scent of fear, e.g., spooky and ghoulish costumes and other ghastly supernatural associations, fear will permeate all of its interactions, thereby nudging adults into awareness of fear and setting them up—priming them—for the negative reinforcement, fear- relieving behavioral manipulation by kids.

When to Exploit the Fear

This suggests that a manager in a position to exploit fear can use the “trick or treat” model and principle of negative reinforcement with a likelihood of success, much as an encyclopedia salesman who can smell the fear of failure-phobic parents can. (“Give me death, or give me liberty!” could have worked the same way, if American colonists were more fearful of death than hopeful about liberty.)

As for the technical behavioral management principle underlying “treat or trick!”, i.e., “treat, or trick”, it is tempting to think it is somehow the “opposite” of negative reinforcement and “problem, solution” or “problem, prevention” sequence built into “trick or treat!”

The closest thing to an opposite in this connection is the idea of threat prevention (preventing a trick by having treats in hand when you open your door) vs. threat relief (fetching treats from your cupboard under threat of a trick)—both being forms of negative reinforcement. Both capitalize on fear, but through prevention of vs. relief from its bite, respectively.

Reducible to an analysis of the impact of “order of presentation”, these observations serve as a warning or inspiration to managers everywhere…

…When you are forced to utter threats, treating your employees as though they are targets of trick-or-treating or treat-or-tricking should do the trick.

2025年8月10日 星期日

沒有記憶的人 : 人的一生, 是被記憶所左右的~

 


Permanent Present Tense: The Unforgettable Life of the Amnesic Patient, H. M.

記憶, 

不想想起, 想不起, 潛意識~

為什麼人可以偷, 很簡單, 那時他(她)壓制了他(她)的潛意識. 對行屍走肉的人來說, 是很簡單的~


關鍵差在記憶 : 大部分是沒有記憶的

 

Youtube: 同樣被殖民 日本對台灣更差 !【為何台灣親日、韓國仇日?】背後的根本原因

關鍵差在記憶~


This strategy taps into fundamental human desires – the pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of pain – to drive action. 好吃懶做

一個人打你一拳跟一個人給你一頓飯吃, 你會比較記得誰~

打你一拳再給你飯吃... - Stockholm syndrome


2025年8月9日 星期六

中國文化

 

字詞:作死,注音:ㄗㄨㄛㄙˇ,釋義:自找死路。《水滸傳》第二七回:「這賊配軍卻不是作死,倒來戲弄老娘!」《西遊記》第一七回:「你個作死的孽畜!甚麼個去處,敢稱仙洞!」

字詞:做死,注音:ㄗㄨㄛˋ ㄙˇ,釋義:拼死、耗盡心力。元.無名氏〈滿庭芳.枉乖柳青〉曲:「為幾文口含錢做死的和人競,動不動捨命亡生。」AI 摘要
這句俗語「老虎不發威,當我是病貓」並沒有一個特定的、明確的出處,它是一個流傳已久的口語,用來形容一個人平時表現得很溫順,但一旦被逼急了,就會顯現出強大的力量和威嚴。
這句話的本質是一種比喻,用老虎的威猛和病貓的孱弱來對比,強調了人不可貌相,以及不要輕易激怒對方的道理。 雖然沒有確切的文獻記載其出處,但多個中文網站和論壇表示,這句話在民間和文學作品中都有廣泛的使用,體現了人們對這種現象的共同認識。
簡單來說,這句話的「出處」更像是口語的累積和文化傳承,而不是單一的文學作品或事件。
我覺得以以上AI回答的普普~
其實人性有很大一部分是偷, 而偷都挑好老板偷, 因為壞老板很難偷

澳洲人只適合三件事

 

沙灘, 烤肉和橄欖球

Strand / Plage, Rugby

荏(忍)

植物名。脣形科紫蘇屬,「白蘇」之古稱,參見「白蘇」條。

柔弱、怯懦。《論語.陽貨》:「色厲而內荏,譬諸小人,其猶穿窬之盜也與?」


2025年8月7日 星期四

面子(façade)和自尊(dignity)的關係

 

從 Paris Oda(46, 2024) 在 Manao Murder 


Paris, Naoko, Sakurako, Orion, Nana

自尊... 有時候只是面子的面子... 為了保護面子而產生的一個名詞.

自己不尊重自己, 一定要別人給面子, 就會變成這樣~

謝X瑋為了自己的面子, 也寧願把自己和她三個小孩(郭均, 郭宏, 郭亭)社會性殺死, 因為, 活著也沒有什麼意義了. 基本上她(謝X瑋) 已經是社會性死亡了~

不過社會性死亡... 總比真的生物性死亡, 來得沒有那麼極端, 不過這只是因為用謊言來騙自己而已, 事實上已經是一具行屍走肉, 因為連自己都沒有辦法面對自己的時候, 那時候呼吸也只不過是一種現象而沒有任何實質上的意義了~

社會性死亡的人, 跟行屍走肉一樣, 沒有什麼叫道德, 什麼事都做得出來的~ 只是看當時的環境而已




2025年8月6日 星期三

八大惡性犯罪 - 社會的真相

 

八大恶性犯罪指的是故意杀人、故意伤害致人重伤或者死亡、强奸、抢劫、贩卖毒品、放火、爆炸、投毒罪。


故意杀人的,处死刑、无期徒刑或者十年以上有期徒刑;情节较轻的,处三年以上十年以下有期徒刑。


《中华人民共和国刑法》第二百三十四条


其實惡性犯罪很簡單, 故意要讓別人陷入不好的情境, 就是惡性犯罪~

英文翻做 vicious, violent, heinous, serious, grave, 我覺得 malignant 比較適合


惡性犯罪, 是不分年齡段的:

一個懷著孕還能販毒的姑娘, 她卸了貨就能洗心革面? 不, 她只會更加業務熟練

一個七八十歳的老太太, 還敢攔路搶劫, 你覺得她出來, 會洗心革面? 要是她有悔意, 她壓根不會走到那一步.

五六歳就會打人搶東西的小孩, 每一次你輕輕放過她, 將來她就更無法無天

最諷刺的地方是.... 

民間團體就是煽動情緒, 挑動矛盾



2025年8月4日 星期一

2025-08-05 拿錢辦事不是應該的嗎?

 

拿錢辦事不是應該的嗎?

一個員工離職前跟我要三天特休, 我私下告訴她, 特休已經用三千塊買了, 她聽了沒說話, 


2025年8月2日 星期六

公司和員工

 

公司一向說到做到, 有錯必改, 但.... 員工呢? 看以前的歷史好像.... 是... 有責任的人就是烏鴉, 沒責任的人是天鵝... 難怪管學會倒.. 沒人想管理(因為連自己可能都管不好了, 所以公司考慮要收管理基金) 公司也差點關門,  不過... 人在做, 天在看.. 感謝寶貝及佛祖保佑..


劣幣驅逐良幣+ 人性


人性: 

好吃懶做, 趨吉避凶, 例如, 可以領薪水就不要工作最好了~ 其實找不到自己的價值, 或是, 也不想找吧?

人性... 和獸性其實差不多, 只是人會用工具罷了~

《天道》这部电视剧中,王志文饰演的角色有一句经典台词,内容是关于老鼠、苍蝇和蝙蝠,以及乌鸦与天鹅的对比,用来讽刺某些人自私和双重标准的行为 
具体来说,台词是这样的:“老鼠从不认为自己吃的东西是偷来的,苍蝇从不觉得自己脏,蝙蝠也不知道自己有毒,毕竟在乌鸦的世界里,天鹅都是有罪的。” 
这段台词的含义是: 
  • 老鼠不认为自己偷东西
    比喻一些人不会反思自己的行为,只考虑自己是否获利,而不顾及是否损害了他人利益。
  • 苍蝇不觉得自己脏
    比喻一些人不在乎自己的恶劣品质和行为,不认为自己的行为对他人造成了负面影响。
  • 蝙蝠不知道自己有毒
    比喻一些人不知道自己对他人造成的伤害,或者说意识不到自己的负面影响。
  • 乌鸦的世界里天鹅有罪
    比喻在某些群体或小团体中,与众不同的人或具有更高价值的人,会被视为异类甚至受到打压。
总的来说,这段台词用动物的习性来映射人性,揭示了某些人自私、双重标准、以及不自知的特点。 它也暗示了“屁股决定脑袋”的道理,即人们往往会站在自己的立场上看问题,而忽略了客观的对错。

劣幣驅逐良幣

原則上我們在管理上要慢慢進步, 因為公司的離職和不爽"可能"都跟.... 一句話有關, 就是要吃無討.. 也就是說, 大家要一起爛... 所以.... 我們一起慢慢來... 但... 一步一步來... (heart eyes Moon)(heart eyes Moon)(heart eyes Moon) 公司是沒差... 但... 不能讓劣幣驅逐良幣~

「劣幣驅逐良幣」是經濟學上的「格雷欣法則(Gresham's Law)」,指的是當兩種名目價值相同但實際價值不同的貨幣同時流通時,價值較高的「良幣」會被收藏或流出市場,而價值較低的「劣幣」則會充斥市場。 這種現象也常被引申到其他領域,用來比喻條件較差的事物取代條件較優良的事物。 


人性真相, 你要當羊, 還是當狼. 還是... 有獵槍, 有好酒 - Dil

 

《天道》这部电视剧中,王志文饰演的角色有一句经典台词,内容是关于老鼠、苍蝇和蝙蝠,以及乌鸦与天鹅的对比,用来讽刺某些人自私和双重标准的行为 
具体来说,台词是这样的:“老鼠从不认为自己吃的东西是偷来的,苍蝇从不觉得自己脏,蝙蝠也不知道自己有毒,毕竟在乌鸦的世界里,天鹅都是有罪的。” 
这段台词的含义是: 
  • 老鼠不认为自己偷东西
    比喻一些人不会反思自己的行为,只考虑自己是否获利,而不顾及是否损害了他人利益。
  • 苍蝇不觉得自己脏
    比喻一些人不在乎自己的恶劣品质和行为,不认为自己的行为对他人造成了负面影响。
  • 蝙蝠不知道自己有毒
    比喻一些人不知道自己对他人造成的伤害,或者说意识不到自己的负面影响。
  • 乌鸦的世界里天鹅有罪
    比喻在某些群体或小团体中,与众不同的人或具有更高价值的人,会被视为异类甚至受到打压。
总的来说,这段台词用动物的习性来映射人性,揭示了某些人自私、双重标准、以及不自知的特点。 它也暗示了“屁股决定脑袋”的道理,即人们往往会站在自己的立场上看问题,而忽略了客观的对错。

Life is a battle

  Several figures have said that "life is a battle," including Henry James ("Life is, in fact, a battle") and Charlotte ...